This is surely the story of a tragedy. Several tragedies. COMMENTARY: A brokenhearted mom vs. a failed system
A mother wants to know why the police didn’t protect her daughter from an abuser. But she calls out the reason in the piece.
Carol thought the police were there to protect her, but little did she know that the Supreme Court made a ruling 10 years prior that allows cops to do NOTHING
Just because the police are going to do nothing, doesn’t mean you have to do nothing. Now this is New Jersey, and even with a violent stalker it is next to impossible to get a concealed carry license. (This victim died waiting for the state of NJ to say it was OK for her to exercise her rights under the 2nd Amendment.) But that is exactly what this woman’s daughter needed.
The police are not going to protect you. They are not going to walk you to your door. Not even if you have obtained a restraining order against a violent stalker. You are responsible for your own safety. If you can’t afford to hire bodyguards, then you need a different plan.
Having a gun may not have saved this woman’s daughter. There are no guarantees save for death and next winter’s snow. But complaining that the cops did nothing – when as she point out, that is exactly what the law says they can do – is counterproductive. You can wish the cops would protect you, but even if they know your abuser is near you, they may not get there in time to save you. (This mother is lamenting that a law wasn’t passed that would do exactly that.)
As I’ve referenced before, when the shit hits the fan, you are on your own, and the Graham Killhouse Rules apply. (The long version is at the link – click thru.)
- Nobody is coming to save you
- Everything is your responsibility
- Save who needs to be saved
- Kill who needs to be killed
- Always be working
You may not like those rules, but reality is a cold-hearted bitch. When faced with a violent asshole who won’t obey the law, and cops who are not going to act as your personal bodyguards, you are on your own.
If you need a restraining order, then you need a plan for your personal safety. I think that a firearm is part of a good plan on that score, but everyone has to make the choice for themselves. And you make a choice, even if you choose to do nothing.