The “How Dare You Live Without Me” Attitude

It never works out in the long run. Former MLB pitcher Charles Haeger who allegedly shot, killed his ex-girlfriend found dead at Grand Canyon

I would also say that coddling star athletes through high-school and college and convincing them that the rules don’t apply to them also isn’t a good thing, but that is a topic for another time.

Investigators say a male roommate returned to his residence after hearing multiple gunshots coming from the victim’s bedroom.

Moments later, the roommate says Breed’s ex-boyfriend, identified as Haeger, exited the room holding a handgun.

The roommate was able to escape and call 911.

The ex Major League Baseball pitcher was found dead of a self-inflicted gunshot wound.

So what does any of this attitude accomplish? Why not just kill himself and leave the ex out of it? Why not just try to get on with his life? Was he such a spoiled brat that he couldn’t take not getting his way? What?


Of Course You Can Defend Your Family

CRIME SCENE DO NOT CROSSTell me how this would have ended if the “juvenile” didn’t have access to a firearm. Police: Juvenile shot, killed man inside Batesville apartment, possibly in self-defense.

Witnesses at the scene told investigators the juvenile shot the man, who was allegedly armed with a knife and attacking the juvenile’s mother.

Both the child and his mother are cooperating with authorities, and the Franklin County prosecutor said he would not pursue criminal charges until police complete their investigation.

So according to the Left, any firearms should have been “locked, securely away” from this kid, so that the only course of action available was to stand by and watch as this guy killed his mother. Or take on a grown man, who was armed with a knife, and obviously not to worried about inflicting harm.

So. I wish someone on the gun-hating Left would tell me how a dead mother, and an orphaned child would someone be preferable to dead miscreant.

Even though no one has been identified, I’m going to assume this was a domestic-violence encounter.

Self-defense is a human-right.

Because Nothing Is More Important Than the Rules

At least to a bureaucrat. Besides, if they don’t just follow the rules, then you are asking them to THINK. Do you really think that is a good idea? Florida Attorney Says Client Turned Away From Filing Restraining Order Due To Coronavirus Restrictions.

The courthouse was full, and The Rules state that only a certain number of people will be let in. What’s that you say? Your life is in danger? Well too fucking bad, we have to OBEY The Rules.

Now I am not a great believer in domestic violence restraining orders. They fail to restrain anyone from doing anything in way too many situations. But they are interesting legal documents, so that I do think you should have one if you need one. But I also believe that if you need a restraining order against someone, then you need a plan for your personal safety. I recommend a 9mm semiautomatic, a case of ammo, and some instruction/time at the range. Though it is pretty nearly impossible to find ammo these days.

In the meantime, the courthouse in question is revising the rules, because even they don’t think asking people to think and use judgement is a good idea.

And I can’t even call this Peak Florida, because it isn’t a Florida issue, it’s a bureaucracy issue.

The “How Dare You Live Without Me” Attitude Doesn’t Work

Hand CuffsHe should have taken the opportunity to move on with his life. Mobile Police: Man shot after assaulting ex-girlfriend’s boyfriend.

He couldn’t accept that it was over, and she had moved on.

On Saturday, Aug. 29, at about 12:40 a.m., police responded to the Comfort Inn, 5660 Tillman’s Corner Parkway, in reference to one shot. When officers arrived, they found a man suffering from a gunshot wound. A woman said that she and the victim, her boyfriend, were exiting the room when her ex-boyfriend, who was outside the room, began to physically assault the boyfriend. The boyfriend was slammed to the ground, causing the ex-boyfriend’s gun to fall from his waistband.

Yes, he was shot with his own gun.

There are several lessons to be learned from this encounter, but I will leave identifying them to you, as a homework exercise.

Good Guys 1, Bad Guys 0.

If You Need a Restraining Order, You Need a Plan for Your Personal Safety

Because a restraining order is just a piece of paper. Days after getting restraining order, woman shot dead by her child’s father in Avondale

Ronnika Richburg went to court and obtained a restraining order last week in an attempt to protect herself from the father of her child, records show.

On Tuesday night, the man she sought to keep away, Lloyd Jones, barged into a home in Avondale, shot Richburg to death, wounded her father and then went on the run, Jefferson Parish authorities said Wednesday.

Personally I life firearms. I also like edged weapons. Relying on “The System” to do everything is a losing bet.

He was at large on Wednesday afternoon (when the article was written).

The cops do not have a duty to protect you, not even if you have a restraining order, so in the end, a restraining order is just a piece of paper.

Floridians Are Almost as Heavily Armed as Texans

You can also say the “How dare you live without me attitude” never works in the long run. Homeowner shoots, kills burglar who tried to enter her home, says Sheriff Judd.

Two couples go out for a social evening. One of the couples gets in an argument back at a home. The men leave – the home belongs to one of the women. But the guy who got in the argument isn’t willing to just drive away. He goes back the home, and starts breaking in.

When the boyfriend got back to the home, he kicked the door demanding the girlfriend to go with him. However, no one answered the door.

The boyfriend then went back to his car and picked up a tire iron and headed toward a window, Sheriff Judd said.

Sheriff Judd said the boyfriend screamed that if he was not let in, he would break in through the window. Again, no one answered.

He then proceeded to break the screen and the glass window trying to enter the home, Sheriff Judd said.

That’s when the homeowner shot and killed him.

“Had our suspect in the home invasion listened to his friend, and gotten back into the vehicle and left, he would be alive to continue his domestic conversation with his girlfriend,” said Sheriff Judd.

What exactly did he expect to have happen? That he would break in and his girlfriend would see that as the proof of his undying love? It seems that stupidity can kill you.

Sheriff Judd has, as usual, another good thing to say about your right to defend yourself. Click thru and enjoy.

Floridians Are Almost As Heavily Armed As Texans

crime scene tapeThe bad guys haven’t gotten that memo. ‘He was defending himself and his family’: Homeowner shoots, kills suspected invader.

The “How Dare you live without me attitude” never works out in the long run.

A man believed to have been upset at a family supporting his estranged wife broke into their home Saturday afternoon and was shot to death by its homeowner, [Pasco County Sheriff Chris Nocco] said.

He was armed. He kicked in a door to a home where he was not wanted, and he fired shots at the homeowner.

He was defending himself and his family,” Nocco said. “Any loss of life is tragic, but the victim was utilizing his Second Amendment rights to protect himself and his family from the fear of Ronald who was carrying a gun, kicking in a door, trying to harm them.

Self-defense is a human-right, and recognized as a legal right in Florida.

Do You Think “The System” Will Protect You?

Hold violent offenders in jail? I don’t think so. Advocates say partners in Harris Co. are being killed after offenders get bond.

In a document filed by the district attorney’s office, Le reportedly posted that if she went missing, it would be Curtis Holliday responsible for her murder.

“Guess what? She was right,” victim’s right advocate Andy Kahan said. “It was a tragedy, and yet it was so utterly preventable because the signals were sent out galore and we sat and did nothing.”

Holliday was charged with continuous family violence in January for two incidents in 2019. He was released on a $30,000 bond and Le was granted a protective order.

Many people have said that a court order is just a piece of paper. If you need an order of protection, then you need a plan for your personal safety. The cops are not going to act as your bodyguards, not even if there is a restraining order.

There is more… Click thru.

Uninvited Visitor or Violent Ex-boyfriend

crime scene tapeYou can also file this under “The how dare you live without me attitude never works out.” Deputies investigate after homeowner shoots, kills uninvited visitor in Lancaster County.

So Euphemisms now count for journalism.

The ex-boyfriend showed up at the house where the girl-friend and new boyfriend were. Things went downhill after the new boyfriend let the ex into his home.

Soon after, the former boyfriend made his way upstairs and confronted the homeowner and the woman at the closet door.

Officers said a disturbance ensued and the homeowner fired a handgun at the former boyfriend, who was shot and died at the scene.

So why is it that so many people, men and women, can’t accept that sometimes, relationships end?

He Didn’t Understand the “Ex” Part of Ex-boyfriend

crime scene tapeHe had a chance to walk away; he should have taken it. Man dies after being shot by homeowner during dispute at Far Northeast Side home.

First, he apparently called in a 911 report on a disturbance. The cops show up. No disturbance, so they leave.

A real disturbance then breaks out between the soon-to-be-dead-guy, and the homeowner’s daughter. The disturbance was on the front porch.

The girlfriend’s father came outside with a gun and asked the ex-boyfriend to leave. Police say that the ex-boyfriend lunged at the father and that is when he was shot multiple times.

The “How dare you live without me” attitude never really works out in the long-run for anybody.

Self-defense is a human-right, and defending their children is what parents are supposed to do.

A Restraining Order Is Just a Piece of Paper

It may be an important piece of paper, but it is not a guarantee of safety. Alabama detective killed by ex-boyfriend who violated protective order, authorities say.

A female detective in Alabama died early Monday morning in what authorities are saying was a domestic disturbance involving her ex-boyfriend, from whom she had previously sought protection.

So if a court order of protection fails to protect a cop, why do you think it will save you?

Now they are important because having the legal system on your side can do some good, but if you need a restraining order, you also need a plan for your personal safety. The cops will not be your bodyguards. While the cops might arrest the subject of the restraining order, they might not, and the courts may not hold him for any length of time anyway.

Having a plan is, of course, no guarantee. “There are no guarantees in this life save for death and next winter’s snow.” Still, having a plan will tip the odds a bit in your favor.

You Expect “The System” to Protect You?

Then you haven’t been paying attention. Murder victim’s friends say PA woman made good on her vow to kill.

Threats. A break in. A house burned down and another fire. And a dead ex-husband.

But no one was able to stop it. Police and the district attorney say they did all they could before the murder within the limits of the law.

Through all of it, the people on the receiving end tried to get the cops, the DA, the arson investigators, anyone to do something. They did nothing. Which is what they usually do.

Now talking to the cops is a fine thing to do in a case like this, but you might consider how expecting “The System” to do all the work turned out in this case.

Restraining Orders Don’t Restrain Anything

Not in the US. Not in the UK. From The Evening Standard: ‘Obsessive and controlling’ husband jailed for life for stabbing estranged wife and baby in anger when she refused to take him back.

Oh, and being convicted of assault is apparently not worth being incarcerated in the United Kingdom.

Khan was convicted of assaulting Ms Khan and ordered to stay away from her in May 2018, but ignored the restraining order and carried out the attack on mother and baby on June 4, 2018.

The attack is horrific. I won’t inflict those nightmares on you. He was mad she wouldn’t take him back, because that meant he would be subject to deportation back to Pakistan.

A violent husband who tried to kill his estranged wife and her infant son when she refused to give their marriage another chance has been jailed for life.

Now this is the UK, so life doesn’t mean life without parole. He will be eligible for parole in 16 years. (It isn’t clear if that includes time-served or not.) But at least he won’t be deported.

He was convicted of assault, threatening to throw the baby out a 4th floor window, and he got a restraining order. Which didn’t do much restraining. And in the UK where defending yourself is forbidden (it is the cops’ job to protect you!) what chance did this woman have?

The details of the crime can be found at this Daily Mail story from 2 years ago. Hunt for Pakistani father who ‘stabbed his estranged wife and their 11-month-old baby’ as friends say he was facing deportation from Britain after she reported him for trying to strangle her.

Texans Are Still Armed

And the “How dare you live without me” attitude never turns out well. HPD: Woman’s boyfriend shoots ex-boyfriend after door to their apartment is kicked in.

Investigators believe a man kicked in the door to an apartment where his ex-girlfriend and her boyfriend were. Police said the current boyfriend grabbed a gun and shot the ex-boyfriend, in fear for his life.

No charges have been filed in the shooting, because self-defense is a human-right, and this happened in Texas.

Relatives Can Be a Danger

crime scene tapeThe Left goes on and on about how if you own a gun, you might shoot someone you know, but most of the threats in your life are going to come from people you know. Look up the definition of domestic violence, for starters. Grundy County Sheriff’s Office investigating deadly shooting in Coalmont.

Police say Nolan had been shot by his father 56-year-old Dale Nolan.

“The preliminary findings in this incident lead us to believe this was a case of self-defense.

He had been arrested at the residence several times for domestic violence.

It is sad, but you have the right to defend yourself, even from your relatives.

He Thought Breaking Into a Home Was a Good Idea

He was wrong. Overnight shooting; one man dead.

Just after 1:20 a.m. on Saturday, June 6, a man forced his way into a home in the 3200 block of Boss Avenue.

According to police, the intruder grabbed the homeowner and threw her on the bed. That is when the homeowner grabbed a handgun and shot the intruder in the head.

Will someone on the Left address the “Just give them what they want” strategy in this case? I didn’t think so.

Self-defense is a human-right.

Turns out, this was an ex-boyfriend who apparently objected to the “ex” part of that label. Coroner releases name of man fatally shot in his head.

The Caddo coroner’s office has released the name of the estranged boyfriend who was fatally shot in his head in Shreveport’s Queensborough neighborhood.

The “How dare you live without me” attitude never works out well.

She Refused To Be a Victim

Don’t expect much coverage of this event by feminists or the national media, since it doesn’t support the narrative. She wasn’t a victim. A gun probably saved her life.

The “How dare you live without me!” attitude fails again. Woman shoots, kills ex-boyfriend with shotgun after he breaks into home, report states.

She broke up with him. She changed the locks. He broke in.

The woman told officers she hid in the bathroom when he broke into her home and shot him with a shotgun when he entered.


This is Texas, so she is not facing charges at this time. (Cops don’t make that decision, but…)

And the guy who got shot had no pulse when cops got to him. Shotgun to the stomach will do that. He was rushed to the hospital where he eventually died.

Self-defense is a human right.

There is a bit of a legend about a Colt firearm engraved as follows:

“Be not afraid of any man;
No matter what his size;
When danger threatens, call on me—
And I will equalize!”

That principle certainly seemed to apply Wednesday evening.

The “How Dare You Live Without Me” Attitude Doesn’t Work Out

crime scene tapeIt never does. Lexington Police investigating homicide on Alice Drive

Police report a homeowner said a man broke into her home and began shooting. Police say another person fired back and shot the intruder.

Police say they entered the home and found 24-year-old Jaymes Michael Miller dead.

Investigators say the homeowner and Miller had been in a dating relationship.

It doesn’t say, but my guess is, “Ex-boyfriend, meets armed current-boyfriend.” Or something to that effect.

Charges are not expected to be leveled against the shooter. The dead guy had a warrant out for domestic violence.

Guys, just accept the fact that “It is over” and move on. Nothing else makes sense.

Relatives Can Be a Danger to Your Safety

The Left loves to warn you that if you own a gun, you might shoot someone you know. But then most of the threats in your life will come from someone you know. 76-year-old Florida woman shoots daughter in self-defense, deputies say.

“Edwards resumed hitting her, and her mother warned her if she hit her again, she’d shoot. Edwards hit her again, and her mother shot her in the leg,” deputies said.

According to the news release, Edwards was being treated for a non-life-threatening injury and will be taken to jail when she’s released from the hospital.

Every case of domestic violence, like this one, is a result of someone the victim knew acting violently. It’s a good thing the mother was able to defend herself.

This Looks Like a Straight-forward Case of Self-defense

My guess is that they arrested this guy because he works for Customs and Border Protection, and so he must be guilty of something. LPD: Self-defense claimed by suspect in fatal shooting of Laredo firefighter.

The dead guy was the husband of the woman whose apartment he broke into. They were separated. He was apparently incensed because the CBP officer was with her. He sent her threatening text messages. He threatened to break in the door to the apartment. He attacked the CBP officer and knocked him to the floor before he was shot.

But because a Customs and Border Protection officer must be guilty of something, they arrested this guy on a murder charge. In Texas.

Politics over facts?